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When Katie emailed me about joining Burning Youth, I was absolutely over the moon. I've loved this blog ever since it was first created, and I could not have been more thrilled to be asked to join. I was really excited to learn that February's focus would be self-love, because I think that it's a super important topic, and one that I was looking forward to writing about.

I then sat down to write this post, and absolutely hit a wall.

I'm not even kidding when I say that I started to try to write this at least four or five times. I would write a few paragraphs, decide that I absolutely hated it, pound the backspace key, and start over completely from scratch, changing my topic, the focus of the post, everything. After spending quite a lot of time on this, I started to get really frustrated with myself. Why can't you just write this? What's wrong with you? It shouldn't be this difficult. Look at all of those girls who have their drafts finished already. I bet theirs are absolutely perfect. Why can't you keep up? 

I let all these thoughts run through my head for about twenty minutes before I honestly just started laughing at the irony of it. Here I was, trying to write a post on self-love, all the while beating myself up to no end. Pretty crazy, huh?

I feel like as creatives, we're really hard on ourselves. We want to be perfect. We want to constantly be producing art that we're proud of and that other people love, and when we're not producing, we feel as though we're failing. But not only do we expect ourselves to be creating these amazing pieces 24/7, we also have the expectation that we should be able to keep up with school and work, spend time with family and friends, have the perfect Instagram feed, keep a clean house, knock everything off of the to-do list, and hey, don't forget to have that flawless winged eyeliner. Because you have to be perfect, right?

W  R  O  N  G

Guys, that is not even close to being realistic. You cannot be perfect. You cannot accomplish everything. You just can't. No matter how hard that you try, it's impossible. Things happen. LIFE happens. Things take longer than you expect them to, or you hit a creative block, or you get sick, or schedules change, or you finally realize that you are just too tired to keep trying to reach this unattainable goal

The problem comes in when we realize that we can't do everything that we want to as perfectly as we want to do it. We feel like we've failed. And that's never a fun feeling. Because again, as creatives, we. hate. failure. We hate it with a fiery passion, and will do anything to avoid it.

But allow me to let you in on a little secret.

Just because you're not perfect doesn't mean that you're a failure. 

It doesn't, it truly doesn't. The fact that you are not perfect does not make you a failure, it makes you human. There's a quote that says, "You are a human being, not a human doing." And that can be a hard thing to remember. But it's very true. You are not meant to spend your life scurrying from task to task, doing everything possible to be perfect. All that will come from living that way is stress and burnout, neither of which are very fun.

So, the next time that you're on the verge of a mental breakdown, feeling like an utter failure because you're not perfect, I have a challenge for you.

1. Stop beating yourself up. Don't give me that look, we both know that you're saying all kinds of awful things to yourself in your head, and I want you to stop. It's not fair. Would you be saying that to your best friend? No? Then don't say it to yourself.

2. Take a step back. Honestly, 90% of the time, you just need a break. If you've been going going going, your brain is going to shut down eventually. Do something that will make you feel better. Read your favorite book. Talk to a friend. Go on a walk. Just clear your mind.

3. Look at what you were doing, and see what you can do differently to make it better. Try attempting the task from a different angle. You just might see something that you've been missing.

Perfection is impossible. And oh my goodness, am I thankful for the grace of Jesus, because if we had to attain perfection on our own, we would be in major trouble. But you don't have to be perfect. So give yourself a break. Breathe. You've got this.

love,
Grace Anne

18 comments:

  1. This is so true and something that I needed to read! Thanks (and welcome to Burning Youth,) Grace Anne!

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    1. I'm so glad that you enjoyed it! Thank you so much!! <3

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  2. This speaks so deeply to my inner control freak hahaha. Beautiful post, Grace Anne!

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    1. Ahahaha, gosh, I feel you on that. XD Thank you so much, Ashlyn!! ♥

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  3. Oh my goodness this was exactly what I needed to read. This is me. Thank you, Grace Anne. I needed this <3

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    1. This comment made me so happy, Katie. Thank YOU. ♥

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  4. Thanks for this post, Grace Anne. I think this quote is now my new favourite: You are a human being, not a human doing.

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    1. Thank YOU for reading it! ♥ It's such a good quote, isn't it??

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  5. GRACE ANNNEEEE! Slam my heart, girl. This was fabulous

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  6. This is so true. I really needed this <3

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  7. This was so needed. Thank you for posting this! Perfection is something I really struggle with and it can be EXHAUSTING. I think I'm going to be reading this over again real soon because the perfectionism trap is just too real....you are a wonderful human! Thanks again!!

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    1. It really is exhausting, isn't it??? It's such a difficult trap to get out of. You are the absolute sweetest, Erin. Thank you so much ♥

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