boys.

















there's been something on my heart for a while now. boys. they've been on my heart and in my mind but not in the way one would assume. i am friends with them, they know they have my trust. with trust comes vulnerability and heaviness. they know i will hold them at their weakest but who will hold me when i can't bare all their secrets anymore?

let me share something with you that they share with me.

boys are insecure.

like girls they worry about the way they look. it's the little things they do that i've picked up on that have triggered me to point the gun at them and ask if they are insecure. the way they look in the rear-view mirror and adjust their hair as they say, "my hair looks bad." or the way they tilt their face when we're taking a picture together to get the perfect angle. "take it again, i look bad in that one."

are you happy with who you are? the way you look? are you confident in who you are?

their answers are long. always. but more often than not the answer is no.

i've been going to the gym, i want better arms and thicker legs. my body needs to look amazing because my personality isn't that great. society makes me feel like i have to have a six-pack. i wish it was okay and i didn't have to worry about these things. there's a huge demand for girls ages 21-28 and that's a small amount of the population which means I need to step up my game. i know i'm good looking but i'm just okay. nope, im not handsome. my personality sucks. i could always look better and be better. i need to work on who i am as a person.

i've heard it all. it's all sad. before i starting paying attention to this matter i thought boys were confident. i didn't think that they cared as much as we do about self-image.

boys. 

who can they tell these things to but themselves and the girls they trust? living in fear that their buddies will be boys about these kinds of things, so they don't bring it up. that's why my heart has sunk. boys have all these insecurities they hold within themselves and no one to talk about it with. girls have other girls to talk about these things with but boys don't have boys.

if boys talked about their insecurities they fear they would sound like girls. "stop being such a girl." don't blame boys for being emotionally unavailable and guarded. they have their reasons. but if one of them ever comes up to you and starts talking. listen and support them. that is the most vulnerable thing they could do.

everyone deals with self-image and self-love issues. it's hard to love yourself in a world that points out your flaws and tells you that you can't, and won't, couldn't and shouldn't. but that's what the world does. it points out your flaws, you must yell to the world that you are beautiful, no one else is going to do that for you.

it'll mean more when you yell, "I'M  BEAUTIFUL!" from the mountains than if the world were to say it.



- vanessa 

14 comments:

  1. I love it! I've always felt that this was true but have wondered if I might be wrong. Thank you for sharing about this!

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    1. I'm glad to have had some input on this! It's a thing alright!

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  2. power-packed, Vanessa. Keep shining the light within!

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  3. Wow. I've actually thought about this before and just yessss

    Nabila | Hot Town Cool Girl

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    1. YES!! New thoughts! Girl, it's exciting to see boys in a different light.

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  4. Dang. I've literally never thought about it like this before??? But will definitely keep a mind out for it now. Thanks, V.

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    1. SO many people haven't thought that this is a thing! But i am Happy you'll keep it in mind!

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  5. I WILL APPLAUD THIS POST UNTIL THE END OF TIME. It breaks my heart when I think of all the young men who feel like they have to hide their heart or their fears or their insecurities.

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    1. OH MY THANK YOU! We should be more aware of it but sometimes we just forget that they have feelings. Thank you for supporting them!

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  6. "it'll mean more when you yell, "I'M BEAUTIFUL!" from the mountains than if the world were to say it."

    wow this is straight fire THANK YOU <3

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