Monday, February 19, 2018

you have no idea

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Sometimes it's discouraging to live in today's world. There seems to be a shortage of love, kindness, hope, and good people to demonstrate these things. But today, I'm going to debunk that myth — and remind you what love is… because now, more than ever, this needs to be the topic on everyone's lips. The main course of everyone's life.

First, I need to be vulnerable and admit something: I'M NOT ALWAYS SUNSHINE AND RAINBOWS. Although I always show up on my blog with a smile and a dose of happiness for you, that's not how I live every moment of my life. I WISH I DID…but this world has a way of knocking you down by mere association. I hear, read, and see things via the news and the internet that breaks my heart and leaves me thinking, "man, what is it all for?" And I think it's important to notice these kinds of thoughts and feelings — not just sweep them under the rug. It's important because of the way we decide to respond to things that knock us down.
I FEEL LIKE THIS NEEDS TO BE SAID. So today that's what I'm going to talk about: love (in honor of Valentine's Day because why not) and how we respond to what isn't love. IT'S A DEEP DIVE, BUT I KNOW YOU'RE WITH ME. I know you feel this too. And I hope this post will give you some solace. Let's go.


That's the big question, isn't?? WELL I DIDN'T SAY I WAS GOING TO ANSWER IT. But it's an important question to ask — especially in today's world, where many things are defined as love…and of those many things, few are accurately described. Under the word in any normal dictionary, you can find this definition: "a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person." < but I think this is a huge understatement of the messy, incredible, complex, ineffable word love. In fact, I would define it more like: "the act of seeing a person's truest identity and the profound ability to selflessly introduce them to who they were created to be." < CLEARLY, THIS DEFINITION IS NOT COMPLETE. But it is the best thing I can come up with at this point in my life.

Love isn't something that can be reasoned out or explained. You can't measure it, see it, or experience it with any of your natural senses. But you can feel it in your deepest self because LOVE IS YOUR MAIN INGREDIENT. It's the foundation of you. Love is, in fact, what you are built out of — and it also happens to be your author's name. When you see it, this changes everything.

Why? Because you don't have to struggle with trying to understand love. It's not necessarily meant to be understood — like electricity in a power outlet, it's designed to flow through you and power everything you touch. Which leads me to the point of this entire post!!


I'm the kind of person who has to have Purpose™. I don't know if it's part of being an INFJ or simply the way I was born and/or raised… but I feel like my whole life should be centered around serving others. My greatest heroes and role models are people who served the world through great acts of love…and I want to BE THAT PERSON. You know?? I'm not looking for fame or recognition — I just want to help someone. I want to be the cause for someone else to hope, dream, and love their life.

But I've recently been thinking a lot about love and what it means to serve the world. And I was just having a conversation with my mom about how we often put these big goals and aspirations on a pedestal, like there's that ONE THING that's going to bring us a sense of Purpose™ — but, in fact, we are doing things to serve the world every day. AND THEY AREN'T EVEN SMALL THINGS. They might seem small, but every act is a drip of water on a rock…and over time, that drip can drill a hole straight through the ground.

Every kind word, every positive social media post, every thoughtful note or email or DM, every blog post that helps or inspires a person or makes them laugh, every time you bring joy and light into someone's life, even just for a moment — THAT IS LOVE. That is the drip on the rock. It might seem powerless and small, but there is fierceness in that drip. A tidal wave can't drill a hole through the rock — but the relentless drip can. That's why the Grand Gesture™ doesn't really matter… because in the end, it's the little things added up that make a difference.


WHOA I COULD MAKE A POEM OUT OF THAT IF I WAS GOING TO BE SUPER CHEESY. Roses are red, violets are blue, love is relentless…and so are you! But in all seriousness, this is what we have to remember: even the little things we do are MORE INCREDIBLE AND BEAUTIFUL AND IMPORTANT THAN WE COULD EVER REALIZE. I don't care what you're working on or what amazing thing you're creating or what Grammy-winning movie you're making or what Pulitzer Prize-winning book you're writing — ALL THOSE THINGS ARE GOOD… but the other things you do in life might be even more important.

I need constant reminders of how good the world truly is. When a tragedy occurs or a swarm of hate and devision knocks my hope down like a tsunami, I need YOU to remind me that there is good in the world. I need YOU to hold the door open for the person behind you, to write your friend a message and tell them how much they mean to you. I need YOU to show up on Twitter every morning and say something positive, regardless of the trending topics yelling at you from all sides. I need YOU to show love — even in its smallest form — to the people around you. Because you have no idea how much that impacts the world. You have no idea how vital your voice is. And you have no idea how much the world needs that very important light that lives inside of you.

Don't be afraid of the hate. Don't be afraid of the judgement and the scorn and the evil things people might say about you. Love, love, love — NO MATTER WHAT. Love because it's all you know how to do. Love because it's your foundation, your makeup, your blueprint. Love because it's the only option. Love relentlessly, wildly, recklessly.


p.s. this post is dedicated to all the victims of the parkland high school shooting. my heart and prayers go out to everyone affected. may we never lose the courage to love, even when nothing makes sense.


  1. <3 "Love is not pitted against hate. It does not have an equal in hate. Love will win every time because love transforms." - Something I've been hanging on to.

    This post came at a perfect time for me. There is someone in my family who has turned away from God and it can be really hard because I want to FIX THEM, but I just have to love. In the end, that will make the biggest change.

    1. Evangeline,

      I can relate on some level with having a fmily member go astray. Please know that you are not alone and we Christian girls have to stick together. <3 I'll be praying for you and your family. *sends lots of love*

    2. Praying for you, Evangeline! Stay strong for Jesus <3
      ~Skylar Reese

  2. Wow. I needed that this morning. Thank you.

  3. How is it that these posts are always exactly when I need them? I've been overwhelmed with a ton of emotions - pretty much all negative - and this gave me hope. Thank you so very much for being my reminder of the good in the world.


  4. I can't remember whether I commented on this post on your blog or not, but just in case I didn't, let me just say I love this post SO SO SO much! :-)
    You're awesome, Abbiee! :-)

    ~Skylar Reese

  5. oh maN I love this. Thanks, Abbie.