Thursday, February 23, 2017

we should stop self-depreciating

I've become the master of looking at the ground, throwing an awkward half-smile, and whispering a barely audible 'thank you' when people compliment me nowadays.

Where there is a high, there is a low; everything has an opposite. In a culture where vanity is huge, it has also become the normal for people also to bash themselves and each other. There is no self-love anywhere- only jealousy and self degrading comments. We live in a culture where you're either self-obsessed or extremely insecure. When people even try to genuinely compliment us, we make it a habit to brush them off and act like they don't mean it!

What a blow to the chest, a blow to the heart, that this realization has brought me. 

I was simply reading a bible study and it's like the words were etched right on that page specifically for me:

"Rather than blowing off words of affirmation with a self-depreciating comment or some sarcasm to deflect the attention away from you, accept the words. Soak them in. Listen for the specific feedback being you're receiving, and accept the love." *

I quickly underlined it and highlighted it while I let that sink in.

Accept the love and stop self depreciating. 

To fully understand this, I always put myself in the shoes of my Creator. If I had made a human being, who even though was flawed, was perfect in my eyes and I loved with my whole heart, but then saw my creation, my child, beating up on themselves, I would feel terrible! I would mourn the fact that they didn't see their own worth. Wouldn't you?

When we accept Christ in our lives, He resides in us. If Christ lives in us, and we are no longer ourselves, when we hate on ourselves and degrade ourselves, are we not degrading Christ who lives in us?

Job 34:19:
"...{He} does not show any partiality to princes, nor regards the rich more than the poor, for they are all the work of His hands." 

You are not a mess up, you are a piece of art.

You are not ugly, I can see Jesus' light shining on your face!

You are worth more than the birds, the sun, the moon, the stars!

He does not see anyone more or less than any other person, we are all equally loved in His eyes.

Everyday we have a choice. Get up, and accept the voices in your head that say "you aren't worth it" and "everyone is better than you". Or fight back, and accept the Word, which says "you are more than a conqueror!".

We all have places that we can improve in. We all have flaws in our lives. But when we hold ourselves in comparison to someone else, it's useless. Most times in our own eyes, we'll never match up. We can never be as good as the people we see through our tiny smart boxes, whose lives look so perfect. The truth is, all of us struggle. Even though we can't see or don't know the challenges they face, trust me, they're there too.

When we stop comparing each other and then look at God's standard, what do we see? God requires a lot of things from us, but He never said we had to be perfect. Never once does the Bible say 'Oh yeah, if you're not as great as Mary Jane down the street and you have areas you need to work on, sorry, I can't love you". He readily accepts us and already forgives us. He's right there, ready to help us work on those rough areas together. God isn't above helping you, and He sure doesn't expect you do handle it all on your own. You have to open up your heart to change, and stop beating yourself up. We are all imperfect; when you realize that you stop trying to reach the unobtainable goal of perfection.

The next time someone compliments you on your smile or your hair, grin, hold your head up, and say 'thank you' with confidence! Then, if they ask you why you're always so happy and secure in yourself, you have a perfect opportunity to mention Jesus to them.

You have an opportunity to show them they are worth something and that they are more than the world's standards of beauty.

It's time to take a stand about being comfortable in your own skin.

You are wonderfully you, own yourself.

love to you beautiful souls.


PSALMS 139:14:

"I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Your works are wonderful, I know that well"

*Taken from Gary Chapman's "A Teen's Guide To The Five Love Languages". (This is a great read! I highly recommend it for anyone, even those not in a relationship!)


  1. Wow. Just wow. I never thought about it this way, but what you say is so true!
    This was literally just what I needed right now! Thanks so much for sharing, JacyRayn!

  2. for me when I start feeling insecure about myself, I remember that I look excatly like the photocopy of my mom( because everybody in our family look alike and people always point it out) , and I realize that by me calling myself ugly, I am insulting her as well and that helps me stop in my tracks. I have definitely improved on my insecurities but I still have my bad days but It always get better.
    And I use to shrug off compliments or make a funny face as if they were lying their tushies off but I've improved in that too and I simply almost always say thank you and smile when people call me beautiful.

    I hope you have a great rest of your day!
    All the love,

  3. Wow, this is so uplifting and important. I love you so much. <3

  4. This was so beautiful and inspiring, JacyRayn. Thank you so much for sharing <3.

    ~ Savannah

  5. That's such an awesome Bible verse! I definitely think there's an issue in our culture with confusing self-love for arrogance. I believe loving yourself isn't arrogance as long as you love others equally.

    Ellie | On the Other Side of Reality

  6. JacyRayn!! This is so convincting in the best possible way. Wisdom is just dripping from your words, girl!

  7. GOOD. We live in a culture of self-deprecation where that's cool, and it's...not cool. GOD LOVES US Y'ALL. HE THINKS WE'RE PRETTY AWESOME. And at the very least...attitude matters, and if all you're doing is retweeting depressing stuff, that's what you're gonna think, y'know?