Sunday, January 1, 2017

i'm fine

I have the privilege of working with a wonderful lady who, when asked, will tell you exactly how she is.
The other day I asked her, "Leigh, how is it you always say just how you are?"
She smiled, "Well, it's better than lying."

And I have done this so many times.
"How are you?"
"I'm fine." 
"How have you been?"
"I've been good!" **cue overenthusiastic smile.

But let's face it: no one is fine all the time (If you know someone who is, let me know).
Personally, I am not fine;
at different intervals, I am stressed, I am tired, I am hopeful, I am happy, I am blessed, I am good.

I am not just 'fine'. I am so much more.

Why can't we say how we are?
Someone wouldn't ask if they weren't wondering.
So tell them. Please.
Of course, I'm not saying spill your guts - unless you want to - but tell them.

I know this can be difficult due to the world we live in;
Vulnerability is taboo and people are called brave for saying how they are or how they feel.
I believe this is because our society only wants things sugarcoated.
They want things pretty.
They want things airbrushed.
They want things in such a way that it doesn't hurt.
Sunshine and rainbows.

But you know what? There is beauty in thunderstorms too.



  1. I often have a hard time opening up to people, sharing my thoughts and how I really feel so this was a beautiful reminder, thank you! All the best for 2017 x


  2. and maybe it's not just being honest, but being raw. saying, i know where you're at. i've been there. and maybe you're doing bad. so tell me. give me your heart. let me build you up in the Lord.
    yes yes yes. x


    It reflects so much of what my journey was in 2016. Vulnerability is scary and unsure and sticky, but so, so beautiful. And so is this post!

  4. This is such an honest post. In my small group i lead, that was my goal, was to be authentic. I wanted everyone to be there for each other and pray for one another, and how can we properly do that if we're all lying about how we're feeling?
    This was such a lovely post, so glad I was able to read it!

  5. this...thank you so much for this.

  6. That is so true. I do that a lot! Thanks for writing this!